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Clitoral Vibrators are not just for solo pleasure they can also be a handy couples companion, making all the difference to female sexual satisfaction and motivation

How many women orgasm during intercourse without clitoral stimulation? The statistics used vary from source to source but they all have one thing in common, the overwhelming fact that the majority of women need extra stimulation during love making to climax. Its not a reflection of male performance, prowess or an indication of feelings towards your partner, it is simply a biological fact which means that either during foreplay or during sex itself the clitoris needs to be an prominent area of focus. Incorporating manual massage or oral sex into your sexual routine is a great way of focussing attention on the female pleasure spot but when it comes to ‘coming’ together sex toys can be a very effective aid to mutual satisfaction. Clitoral vibrators or ‘clit stims’ as they are known are probably the best couples sex toy you can buy if the criteria for such a purchase is a bedroom aid which supports both parties ultimate enjoyment.

Which Clitoral Vibrator to choose? It might be the case that you have already enjoyed manual massage of the clitoral area during sex which is effective and adaptable to many different positions but many women want a stronger source of stimulation. A mini vibrator or clitoral vibrator can be perfect for this due to its mighty power, slim dimensions and hand held capability during use.

Egg & Bullet Vibrators are small yet powerful vibrators which make good clitoral stimulators during sex. The often narrow width of the bullet fits perfectly against the female anatomy, are small enough to grip between your finger and thumb and are usually pretty powerful for a mini vibrator. The bullets without a connection lead are easier to use during sex as there are no leads to become tangled up in but both types will be effective when making love.

Finger Vibrators also make good couples aids for extra sexual stimulation. They can be simply tiny bullets to slip onto your finger or the ears of a rabbit vibrator with tiny bunny body, whatever their style finger vibrators allow for a dexterity during sex that doesn’t interfere with your love making. There are a plethora of vibrators adapted to clitoral massage just peruse the offerings of a sex shop for women to experience the best in female sex toys.

Adopt a position where you or your partner can reach between your legs and begin to massage the clitoral area. The best positions are:

Doggy style – kneel on all fours and reach forward to your clitoris

Legs up High – Lie on your back and raise your legs with your feet towards the ceiling and resting on your partners arms. This makes it easy to use a clitoral vibrator during love making

Spoons – Lie with your backs together and once he is inside raise your top leg slightly allowing a gap for clitoral massage.

Its come to something when in the name of research I hid the latest issue of Zoo inside a wank mag. The motivation to peruse the hallowed pages of the boys publication was a result of the Danny Dyer debacle whereby the ‘celebrity’ advice columnist advised a dejected individual ‘cut his ex’s face’ so that future guys wouldn’t want her. As would be expected the public outrage turned against Danny himself the public face of the column but anybody who sat down long enough to think about it would realise that Dyer neither writes nor controls the content of the column. The question has to be asked how such a answer could be passed for print as a ‘mistake’ on the part of the editorial team. Considering that the circulation figures have dropped just over 29% year on year it could be seen as a warped attempt to raise the profile of the lad mag contravening the adage no publicity is bad publicity. The offending comment only seems to be a content issue of  slightly bigger significance than the misogyny that permeates the magazine at many levels. Insulting, unhealthy, sexist and negative, lets hope it eventually faces extinction.

I have been a big fan of male sex toys for a few years. It all began with a torn porn mag my friend Dave stole from his Dads stash and donated to me at 12. After wanking with the magazine I thought to myself that using a prop or enjoying  visual aid feels damn good and after many years of retiring to my bedroom after tea to peruse the luscious pages of Dave’s dads Play Boy began a collection of sex toys and accessories myself. Why should girls have all the fun anyway? Male Sex aids are fast becoming a growth industry and finding something to get you up and keep you there with a smile on your face is becoming ever easier!

“I’m such a good lover because I practice alot on my own” – Woody Allen

The collection of paper porn obviously grew as I did and could reach the top shelf of the local Paper shop and once the age of technology dawned and the Internet emerged, porn on tap became a daily excursion around the free  sites and forums. I have to admit to being a regular visitor to You Porn and must say on the whole its good stuff.Aside from a couple of uncomfortable trips for lap dancing clubs with my previous boss, sexual titillation was never paid for again. The move from visual stimulus to physical gratification came in the form of a cheap male masturbator brought during a quiet afternoon waiting for a client on the outskirts of town. The sex shop was dark and well to add a cliche seedy but the floppy transparent tube caught my eye and I found myself at the counter with masturbator in hand. The Jelly sex toy felt great after I realised that you needed lubricant, believe me the first attempt was less than comfortable. I have moved through the ranks of male masturbators since with vibrating versions, life like examples and designer sex aids from the likes of Tenga. A sleeve does much of the work for you and after I met my wife decided to give one to her as we enjoyed using it together (all women struggle to get the hand job right anyway). Much like a woman’s Rabbit Vibrator a vibrating sleeve adds that bit more to the manual method, sending stimulating vibrations to the cock and balls that your hand just can’t compete with.

Next came a penis pump with the expectation that I would disappear into the bathroom for 10 minutes and re-appear with the member of John Holmes but alas this wasn’t the case (although pump it for a few minutes and it certainly grows for the duration). Once I met my wife we started experimenting with cock rings and enjoy the vibrating kind because women need that stimulation on that part of their body we can never find. My collection also keeps me harder and once I am up and running with the restriction around the base can last for a few hours longer than usual (ok minutes longer). Of late I have tried a few prostate toys and I must admit to liking it. My partner encouraged me as part of  a re-newed adventurous sex life and although unsure about sticking something in my bum would heartily recommend it as a trigger to orgasm and intensifier to the climax. I know some men are reluctant to try sex toys either because they feel guilty, weird or inadequate inside a relationship but i would suggest you give them a try, who knows you may just like it!

We have long learned that girls don’t have all the fun and with the growing boys sex toy market it would be rude not not give a few a go! That said its not just sex toys aimed at women that come very handy in the penis pleasing stakes. A friend of mine loved to use a mini vibrator of his girlfriends and as soon as she had left the house for any length of time stole it from the bedroom drawer. The feeling of the vibe around the tip of the penis is very good and running it along the shaft and pressing into the base of the cock and perineum really gets the juices flowing. Remember to add some sex lubricant as trying to manoeuvre a vibrator around your genitals without it will feel more like an uncomfortable drag.

There is nothing quite like a male masturbator, it adds a delicious spin on masturbation and gives your wrists a rest in the bargain. Adding vibrations to a male masturbator feels very good and in today’s market there are many designer sex toy choices available in addition to the replica vagina’s and cheap jelly Chinese versions available. The penis sleeves feel great and you can even choose between mouth or ass styling but make sure you use plenty of lubricant for a smooth slide.  Cock rings are a very useful sex toy to keep in your back pocket. If you are struggling to maintain your erection for the duration or just want an extra hard cock then the stretchy ring is for you. Simply slip the ring to the base of your penis when erect and the pressure will delay ejaculation, keep you big and firm and improves your eventual climax. If you really want to impress your partner opt for a vibrating version, check out screaming o for a  great selection of cock rings. Penis pumps have long been used for pleasure and increased size but don’t be fooled into believing this to be a long term transformation, penis pumps only temporarily increase the size of your cock. Finally don’t overlook the prostate dubbed the male g spot for good reason. The P Spot holds muscles that contract on orgasm and stimulating this area with your finger or sex toys can give mind blowing orgasms.

Lets face it times are hard and we are all finding ever more ingenious ways to spend less without sacrificing too much of life pleasures. When it comes to masturbation and couples sex toys we are also looking to cut costs without sacrificing in the pleasure stakes so we have tracked down the biggest sex toy sales and sex shop bargains to keep you happy whilst holed up and skint!

Sex shop sales have been aplenty over the Christmas period and beyond with some massive savings on branded items for the savvy sex toy shopper. Don’t look for the cheap and tacky sex toys which wholesale at the price of a postage stamp its easy to discount those to catch your attention, instead look for the sex stores selling branded toys and designer sex toys at low low prices to go. Luxury sex toys have often meant high prices that many of us can ill aford but larger sex toy sellers will be keen to reduce their stock and keep their cash flowing so look out for the designer gems amongst the sale category for bargains that bring you off in style. Our pick of the sexy sale stunners are   the Tantus Omega at Lovehoney, waterproof jack rabbit at Sextoys.co.uk and the Elite Rabbit Vibrator at The Boudoir.

Try the voucher code sites for brilliant savings to be made. Companies such as My Voucher Codes have sex toy suppliers like Ann Summers listed amongst their adult stores with regular offers on sex toys and boudoir accessories. If you have a blog or are good at writing words together why not volunteer as a sex toy tester and combine your sensual pleasures with reviewing toys for reputable companies that need your opinion on that dildo or latest vibrators.

There are so many ways to grab a sex toy for less, if you have any suggestions please comment..

Men are not able to multiple orgasm at the same rate as women but with practise you could be coming time and again with ease. Practising Kegel Muscle exercise improves your chances of multiple orgasm, try squeezing the muscles three times a day in sets three with twenty relaxed pulls for about 3 seconds at a time. Use the muscles that you engage to hold on to urine and you will feel a big difference in orgasm frequency and strength within a week or two. Whilst masturbating it is also worthwhile to practise reaching orgasm without actually ejaculating. This has been a known possibility for centuries and has been lost in modern times. PC control enables the pleasurable sensation of orgasm without shooting your load. Grab your stroke 29 or any masturbation cream and pump away, stopping short of ejaculation, with control an orgasm will come even though you stop your semen from travelling – The perfect birth control!

What actually happens when a man ejaculates? Firstly the walls of the storage sites for semen and sperm contract. The technical term for this is ‘ejaculatory inevitability’ or the point of no return. If you are having sex or using sex toys and don’t want to orgasm it is possible to hold off this ejaculatory sensation and build it again later. The second phase involves rhythmic contractions of the muscles at the base of the penis which results in the pleasurable sensations of climax. The control of the ejaculatory response is something that most men are very concerned about controlling. Learning to control these muscles can also lead to men having multiple orgasms, something women can also master. The secret to controlling these muscles is Kegel Exercises but if you are concerned about issues just as premature ejaculation then consulting your doctor is the best course of action. Delay sprays can be brought from the sex shop and many do help in aiding the control of orgasm through de-sensitisation but a sexual health professional will give the best advice.

It is rare for masturbation to be a problem, however like any forms of behaviour it can become compulsive. If you find yourself glued to your male masturbator or your sex toy is keeping you in at night then read on…

It is more common for men to become addicted to masturbation than women and it has little to do with sex. When a man starts to masturbate compulsively it is usually due to stress and anxiety than the feeling of pleasure that it brings. In effect the masturbation becomes a relief from the negative mental states that the person is feeling and is an escape from the problems they may be experiencing. Compulsive masturbation tends to disrupt life and interfere with relationships and a persons life. Thankfully the persuit of self pleasure is a healthy persuit in most peoples lives and provides benefits rather than negative results.

Only in Japan! The Japanese hold an annual festival called Kanamara Matsuri which translates as the ‘festival of the steel phallus”. The story goes that a scary vagina dwelling lady demon was defeated by a clever monk who used a giant steel penis to blunt her sharp toothed castrating ways. The festival goers parade with a giant penis and enjoy various phallic shaped accessories including lolly pops that raise funds for aids.

What is an orgasm? The text book definition is a release of muscular tension following a build up of arousal. The orgasm itself consists of a series of spasms, of which the length and frequency is dependant on the individual.

What is an orgasm to you? a crescendo of fireworks, a warm glow or a slight tingle. We would all prefer the former but in truth our experience of orgasm is about as different as our facial features and character. Reportedly an orgasm can be localised in the genital area or consist of a full body event. There are various ways of improving your orgasm and working out the muscles which control the orgasm itself can give you a climax to write home about. There are stacks of muscles in the pelvic area but working them collectively is known as kegel exercise. You can either squeeze and release these pc muscles for a pelvic burn or use a kegel exerciser such as Funfactory Smart Balls or Funfactory Teneo .

Is male orgasm and female orgasm different? How interesting it would be to experience the other genders climax. Judging by biology the orgasm is the same spasm of muscle in both cases but is one stronger or longer? One benefit on the female side is multiple orgasm and the ability to rock up to the climax again after only a short rest. What would I do if I found myself in a woman’s body? grab a rabbit vibrator and find out!